Being There

Being There

How to Love Those Who Are Hurting

Dave Furman

Everyone has friends or family who suffer from sickness, disability, depression, or the death of a loved one. Oftentimes, the people who love the hurting also struggle in their own unique ways.

Writing from the unique perspective of one who needs extra help on a daily basis, Dave Furman offers insight into the support, encouragement, and wisdom that people need when helping others. Furman draws on his own life experiences, examples from the Bible, and wisdom from Christians throughout history to address the heart and ministry of those who are called to serve others. Deeply personal and powerfully pastoral, this book points readers to the strength that only God can provide as they love those who are hurting.

Originally published by Crossway, this new edition features additional discussion questions.

I intend to give Being There to the many people who are daily there for me, a quadriplegic—it’s a must read for any believer who desires to follow Jesus in a life of service to others."

Joni Eareckson Tada, founder and CEO, Joni and Friends International Disability Center

“Filled with insight that only someone who has walked this road can provide.”

Nancy Guthrie, author and conference speaker

“Pastors: you will love chapter 8. It will supply your church with invaluable guidelines for helping others. The rest of us: we will be better friends to those who suffer when we meditate on Dave’s wise counsel.”

Ed Welch, counselor and faculty, The Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation

"For many years Dave Furman has faithfully modeled being there for others while he himself has benefited from those who have been there for him. This gives him a unique perspective and wisdom in crafting a book about helping the hurting. I highly recommend it."

Tim Challies, blogger, challies.com

“Too often, books are written for the hurting, and the person left out is the friend or family member who is helping the hurting. That’s why Dave Furman’s Being There will be an invaluable resource.”

Deepak Reju, Associate Pastor, Capitol Hill Baptist Church, Washington, DC; President, Board of Directors, Biblical Counseling Coalition

“This is not a book that offers easy solutions, but instead brings Bible-centered counsel to bear on the dark moments of life."

Mez McConnell, pastor, founder of 20schemes

"Writing from the vantage point of one who daily struggles with pain, Dave gives authoritative counsel to those eager to learn the art of being present and the skill of giving practical care.”

JR Vassar, Lead Pastor, Church at the Cross, Grapevine, Texas; author, Glory Hunger

“This is full of pastoral wisdom, profound theology, and deeply personal experience. It is a beautiful book with a beautiful message.”

Sam Allberry, Associate Pastor, Immanuel Nashville; Canon Theologian, Anglican Church of North America